1:1
Most men I talk to don't have a confidence problem, or a discipline problem, or a relationship problem.
They have a mother problem, or a father problem, or both. They have never looked at it directly.
The mother problem shows up sideways. As avoiding their wife. As over-explaining themselves to anyone with a maternal energy. As money that disappears the moment it arrives. As a softness in the back when a woman raises her voice. As a quiet, lifelong sense that their own energy is not entirely their own.
A father problem is being a wimp. Seeking connection with others from the wrong place. Looking for a father in a wife, an investor, a friend.
Founders feel both in the company. The same pattern returns as hiring, as pricing, as the deal they cannot close, as energy that is not fully theirs when the room gets hard.
You have already done work. Therapy. Books. Men's groups. Ceremony. The work keeps pointing at one room you have not entered.
The work
We look at where your energy actually goes. Who is holding it. What it would cost to take it back. What it would cost not to.
I do not stay in the story. I go into the body. Into the life-force. The place you have been circling and will not name.
I sit with you in that room. I name what is true. I do not leave when it gets quiet.
Ceremony taught me to see. This is that seeing, applied to a man's life and his company.
I do not manage your calendar. I stay until your own energy is yours again.
No curriculum. Your company and your life are the material.
If you sit with plant medicines, I prepare you and I bring you back. I do not administer. The ceremony is yours. The seeing after is the work.
You will leave with fewer ideas than you came in with, and more clarity about the one or two that matter.
Who this is for
Founders, builders, fathers, husbands. Men with real responsibilities who feel captured and keep meeting the same pattern sideways.
If you want a coach, a framework, or someone to manage your calendar, this is not it.
Who I am to talk about this
My father was from Siberia. He drank himself to death.
My mother is a millionaire. Part of how she built that was on energy I gave her without knowing I was giving it. I spent most of my twenties not seeing this, and most of my thirties getting my life-force back.
I've worked with plant medicines for twenty years, cannabis, mushrooms in ceremony, ayahuasca with the Yawanawa. I have sat on the other side of non-duality and come back with a body that still has to pay rent.
Prayer keeps me connected to God. I have spent years with Jung, Siddhartha, Don Juan. I have sat in Christ consciousness. I am more Chinggis Khan than a monk.
I have healed both. The mother. The father. I am whole.
I have sat with men after ceremony, when the lights come back on and the rent is still due. I have sat with them in the company when the same pattern walked in wearing a different face. That is how I work.
I am not a therapist. I will not diagnose you or treat you. I am a man who has done this exact work on himself, and who can recognise the shape of it in another man within a few sentences. And honestly, I can see the broken patterns in women as well.
I am connected to my feminine energy. The wisdom is the same. This page is still for founders and men.
I build with AI agents. I write. I make videos. This is not my job. I take one or two people. If the fit is not obvious, I say no.
What this is not
Not therapy.
Not a five-step coaching framework.
Not a sales call for a longer programme.
Not a business coach who also likes plants.
What's included
Four long-form 1:1 video calls a month.
Async access between calls (Telegram, Signal, or phone) for when something real comes up. Weekday replies.
Optional plant-medicine preparation and integration around your own ceremonies. I do not administer.
Application required. Very few seats.
Price
€15,000 / month. Or €40,000 for three months.
First month is always €15,000 to begin.
Month-to-month, you pay €15,000 each month and can stop after any month.
The three-month path is €40,000 total. You pay €15,000 to start. The remaining €25,000 is due before the second month starts.
Work with me
If you'd like to talk first, book a 15-minute call.
If you already know you want to apply, write me one honest paragraph. What is the room you have been avoiding entering? What have you tried? Why now?
pafka@hey.com, subject: 1:1 advising.